Student Web Activity

Chapter 3 Lesson 4: Healing from Loss

Introduction

Most teens deal with small losses all the time. Some examples could be losing a book you really liked, failing to make a team you wanted to join, or having a friend move to another city. In each case life is changed and you must deal with the feelings that come up. The bigger losses, such as the death of someone you love, have an even bigger impact on your life. On the Web site below, you will learn about the meaning of loss, grief, and mourning, and get practical suggestions for how to cope with and heal from a loss.

Link to explore: Grief Works web site:  http://www.griefworksbc.com/About.asp

Directions

  • Start at the Grief Works Web site.
  • Read the home page and then click and read the “About Loss,” “Things You Can Do,” and “How to Help a Friend” links.
  • Take notes as you read.
  • When you are done reading, answer the questions below.
  • Finally, using the information from the link, create a grief resource brochure that lists symptoms of grief, things that will help someone cope with loss, and resources that are available to help.

Questions

  1. Why are teens' feelings about death and loss often conflicted and very intense?
  1. What are the three basic lessons for learning to cope with loss?
  1. What are the differences between loss, grief, and mourning?
  1. List three things a person can do to deal with the grief associated with loss.
  1. What is the most important thing you can do to help someone who is grieving?

Answers

  1. Teens' feelings about death and loss are often conflicted and very intense because they are already struggling with big questions. Experiencing grief during this stage of development can cause further challenges.
  1. The three basic lessons for learning to cope with loss are:
    1. Learning to understand the complicated feelings that accompany all losses.
    1. Learning how to get through the grief and pain associated with loss.
    1. Learning what to do to take care of yourself while healing.
  1. Loss is an event - something that happens. Grief is an inner, complicated emotional experience. Mourning is an outer process of dealing with feelings of grief.
  1. Things a person can do to deal with the grief associated with a loss include:
    1. Make a photo collages of the person who died.
    1. Share stories about the person with others.
    1. Plant a tree or create a memorial garden in your yard.
    1. On special days, light a special candle and keep it lit all day.
    1. Sponsor an award or scholarship in the loved one's name.
    1. Create a special decoration for the Christmas tree or other special events.
    1. Use the rituals of your faith that acknowledge your grief journey.
    1. Have a totally fun day on the birthday of the person who died.
    1. Volunteer your time, experience and knowledge with other families at your local hospice organization, community agency, or hospital.
  1. The most important thing you can do for anyone who is grieving is listen and not judge.
Additional Resources for Teachers

Since loss occurs in many forms and is a very personal thing, it is a good idea to discuss the process of healing. Below are some web sites that offer excellent suggestions for how to help others who have experience a loss and things that individuals can do to help themselves.

  1. Hospice:
    http://www.hospicenet.org/html/teenager.html
  2. Teen Health:
    http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/emotions/someone_died.html
  3. Friends for Survival:
    http://www.friendsforsurvival.org/
  4. Journey of Hearts:
    http://www.journeyofhearts.org/jofh/kirstimd/journaling.htm

Close