7 Lesson 2: Tips for Getting Along
One of the biggest roadblocks to getting along is anger. That is why being able to identify and handle your anger is such a valuable skill. On the Web site below, you will learn about anger, how to manage it, and how to avoid conflict.
Link to explore: BAM – Guide to Getting Along: http://www.bam.gov/sub_yourlife/yourlife_conflict.html
- Start at the BAM Web site.
- Read through the first page.
- Go on to “Iron Out Your Issues” by clicking on the link at the bottom of the page.
- Go on to “Cool Rules” by clicking on the link at the bottom of the page.
- Take notes as you read.
- When you are done reading, answer the questions below.
- Finally, using the information from the links, create your own “Rules to Break the Anger Chain” using one of the letters in the word A-N-G-E-R to start each rule. Make your list of rules into a bookmark that can be handed out to teens at school.
- When is a conflict not a conflict?
- What are three of the five ways to stop your anger from exploding?
- What is a person’s conflict style, and what are some examples?
- When should a person get outside help with a conflict?
- What do the letters in the word “anger” stand for and how can they be used to help a person deal with anger?
- A conflict is not a conflict when you stop it before it gets started.
- The five ways to stop your anger from exploding are:
- Taking deep breaths and concentrate on relaxing your body as you breathe.
- Counting to 10 slowly.
- Thinking before you react. Ask yourself what the consequences of your actions would be?
- Keeping your voice low and slow.
- Removing yourself from the situation.
- A person’s conflict style is how he or
she responds or deals with problems. For example,
some people avoid conflict, others pretend
the problem does not exist, and still others
confront problems directly.
- A person should get outside help with a conflict when the problem is serious, when you are not talking, when you do not trust the other person involved in the coflict, or when it looks like the problem might turn into a fight.
Additional Resources for Teachers
- The letters in “anger” stand for:
You can deal effectively with anger by remembering to avoid people and situations that make you angry, never using your body to hurt someone, getting away from tenses situations, evaluating your choices, and realizing you are responsible for your choices.
- Get away
Below are some additional resources on conflict prevention, management, and resolution, including some good sites on anger. Try giving student hypothetical situations that involve anger and see how they would attempt to resolve them.
- Safe Youth:
- Teens Health:
- National Youth Violence Prevention:
- Teen Health: